TransGriot Note: I had my say about Florida Lt. Gov Jennifer Carroll’s jacked up comments about my Black lesbian and bi sisters, and now I’m pleased to signal boost for my readers this post from the NBJC blog and from NBJC Communications Director Kimberly McLeod
July 16, 2012 06:26 PM
Lt. Gov. Jennifer Carroll is on the defensive (and has apparently lost
her mind) after former staff member Carletha Cole claimed that she
caught Carroll and her female travel aide in a compromising sexual
position in Carroll’s capitol office. In an absurd attempt to deflect
questions about the alleged same-sex encounter, Carroll told a local
news outlet that Black lesbian and bisexual women don’t look like her.
“My husband doesn’t want to hear that. He knows the type of woman I
am for 29 years. I’m the one that’s married for 29 years. The accuser is
the one that’s single for a long time,” Carroll continued on camera
while chuckling. “Usually Black women that look like me don’t engage in
relationships like that.”
What exactly do Black lesbians and bisexual women look like,
Lt. Gov. Carroll, since you seem to know so well? And what “type of
woman” have you been for the last 29 years that by default makes you not
lesbian or bisexual?
Actually, don’t answer that. Because who knows what more ignorance
and utter word vomit you can further spew. As a self-identified Black
lesbian who embraces and celebrates her femininity, allow me to answer
that for you.
At the core of Carroll’s problematic statement is the misconception
that people “turn” gay because they are unattractive, cannot meet
someone of the opposite sex and out of desperation “switch teams.” Being
gay isn’t our “Plan B.” It is part of our identity that isn’t dependent
on our physical features or “success rate” with men. Someone’s marriage
to a man, good looks, or femininity isn’t evidence of anything related
to their orientation.
There is nothing “wrong” or deviant about being a lesbian. In fact,
the lesbians I’ve met personally, as friends, co-workers, lovers,
partners and mentors, are some of the most radiant Black women – inside
and out — I’ve been blessed to know. They are mothers, sisters,
daughters, community organizers, spiritual leaders, artists, wordsmiths,
CEOs, doctors, and more. Their brilliance and beauty is undeniable.
These women engage in some of the most loving and committed
relationships I have witnessed.
What “type” of woman exactly are you, Lt. Gov. Carroll? You
seem so keen on differentiating yourself from me and my Black lesbian
and bi sisters. And what makes your relationship with your husband so
different from the thousands of Black women raising children together?
Inquiring minds would like to know.
The fact that Lt. Gov. Carroll went out of her way to specify that Black
lesbians and bisexual women don’t “look like her” implies that
non-Black lesbians and bi women are entitled to more a fluid gender
expression. This is yet another problematic notion of female sexuality
so many Black women, and women in general, have internalized from the
patriarchal policing of Black female sexuality.
To add insult to injury, then there’s Lt. Gov. Carroll’s jab at
single Black women. As if those single for extended periods of time have
somehow gotten the short end of the stick, or, gasp, are gay. Heaven forbid there are Black women who are single by choice or who are happily single for long lengths of time.
For the record, this is what a Black lesbian looks like. They look
like me. They look like comedian Wanda Sykes, actress Jasika Nicole,
model Az Marie, singer Tracy Chapman, activist Angela Davis, poet
Staceyann Chin and others. Many, Lt. Gov. Carroll, look just like you.
You can defend your marriage without dissing Black lesbian and single
women. You can protect your reputation without revoking Black lesbian
That is why I am standing with the National Black Justice Coalition,
the nation’s leading Black LGBT civil rights organization, and with
Black lesbians, bisexual women and our allies everywhere, demanding that
Lt. Gov. Carroll retract her statement immediately.
Tweet your photo to @NBJContheMove to show Lt. Gov. Carroll and
others what Black lesbians look like. Use the hashtag
Kimberley McLeod serves as NBJC’s Director of Communications.