Guest post by Pamela Hayes
I remember reading where southern writer, William Faulkner–
author of such short stories as A ROSE FOR EMILY, DRY SEPTEMBER, to name
a few–said that it was the responsibility of white people to bring
black people along, to teach Negroes the importance of manners and
education so they could comport themselves effectively and prosper in a
democratic society. I don’t know when Faulkner uttered these bothersome
words because many (blacks) had no chance of prospering or receiving
adequate education prior to the Civil Rights struggle.
But I digress.
Trans women should take Mr. Faulkner’s advice and tweak it to meet our
needs. We have to bring gay people along, let them know who we are, our
likes and dislikes, our dreams, hopes and aspirations. And make no
mistake some gay folks will be impervious to our tutelage.
And in all
candor, I doubt if that would be fruitful because the sad truth is, SOME
gay people don’t give a damn about trans people for a variety of
reasons, one of which is envy.
Over the years, I’ve heard countless gay
men tell me that they wouldn’t do what I did (switch sexes) because they
would make an ugly woman. What an incredibly shallow comment.
other trans women have had gay men fight us, out us, embarrass us,
disrespect us and I’ve gotten negativity from lesbians as well. So
trans women cannot bring those types along because they are unwilling
to learn, but I still say try. And it’s unfortunate that gays and
lesbians don’t believe in the old adage about there being strength in
numbers. If we all worked together, we could accomplish plenty.